Dear Diary:
Sunday, 15 March 2009
Monday, 09 March 2009
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How do you eat your Pommes Dauphine?
A gentleman came in with his wife the other night for dinner. Midway through service, I saw him standing in the back room and thought he was probably just taking a look around as they were seated in the front of the restaurant. I say to him, How is your dinner so far Mr. "Kent". And he nods. Next thing I know he is downing a glass of Jack Daniels neat and apparently, this was his second trip to the "restroom". I thought if only I could tell his wife what I saw. After all, it is for his own good right?
It brought to mind a conversation my girlfriends and I once had about exes. For example, do you want to know your current boyfriend/girlfriend's history? Or are you of the school that what is past is past? I thought then and still do now that I do want to know. After all, all your life experiences is what you are made up today so if anything, to better understand the person you now are, you must know who you were before. Generalities, some specifics but no need for a play by play recant.
My friend Julia put it best, "Why do I want to know? Because I don't want to be the only one that doesn't" and THAT I think would apply to poor Mrs. Kent in the scenario I witnessed above.
Also on my mind, the size of men's tie knots. Two gentlemen came in today and their knots were sooo soooo very VERY tiny and thin and I could not help but generalize that a man who does not take the time to properly tie his windsor or half windsor, etc. somehow was less desirable to put it nicely so boys, in some cases, size does matter. Wouldn't you agree?
If you do not know what a windsor is or how to properly tie a tie, I would highly recommend learning or find a good woman who knows how
I remember going into a dressing room at Kenneth Cole with "him" and I tied his knot for him while he tried on various dress shirts, many of which he looked absolutely dashing in. Sigh ~ How did we veer so off track? *sniff sniff*
On that note, I am going to finish my glass of '05 Daisy vin de pays d'oc by Vignobles Dom Brial (I was experimenting at the local wine store and thought the bottle was très cute!)
Now, if I can just get my hands on some more scrumptious little pommes dauphines I popped in my mouth earlier tonight. (Heavenly little deep fried crispy puffs of mashed potato goodness mixed with savoury choux pastry). Tasty!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, 03 March 2009
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Is there such a thing as being too ambitious?
I think it is great to be ambitious. There is much to be accomplished in this world and we should all live our lives to their fullest. We should all strive to be our best and take a proactive stance in our all our endeavors.
But when is enough enough? When has it crossed the line to being forever discontent because you are always looking for the next best thing, the next project, the next trip, the next show, the next job, the next girlfriend, ...
One must not settle but I guess the question I am posing is, "Is it that unreasonable to deduce that people with this insatiable thirst, who need to be reminded to be grateful for what they have and appreciate the present, might never want to settle down?"
Wednesday, 25 February 2009
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I'm the girl from the bar
Lexie introduces herself to Meredith, who is stunned to learn that she has another half sister. Derek approaches Meredith, just as Lexie comes up to apologize for botching her introduction.
Derek recognizes Lexie as "the girl from the bar," and Meredith gives him a disgusted look and says, "I'm the girl from the bar" and walks off.~yup, that's basically what happened to me the other day. Do all guys move on this fast? I got off at Union Square for the first time last night to have dinner with a friend. My heart started to beat a little faster and I wondered what I would do if I saw him? I started to get a little teary eyed and yelled at myself for being so weak. SPICE sucked but it was great catching up. We blew up a nail sized baby picture I had of myself (the only one in the world) to a 4x6 print at Staples for a whopping $2.47. It was awesome and then at Barnes & Nobles, I picked up a book about 100 household hints on the uses of pure baking soda to find a $1 bill with this written on it ... and smiled. God does talk to me after all.May you be Blessed with Health, Wealth, and LoveCurrently learning
Teardrops on my Guitar by Taylor Swift
Friday, 20 February 2009
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I am sending out a $75 rebate and the responsible side of me knows I should make a copy of the original in case anything happens right? So I walk through my neighborhood looking for that "copier" sign. Lo and behold a liquor store owned by an Indian couple has it. Perfect! The place is brightly lit, neat and clean so I am surprised at the yellowed copier in the back, hinting at its need for an update. I press start and the machine says paper jam, open the side, remove jammed paper and start again so I do. I make my copies and at the register, the guy says 30 cents. I said oh I only made 2 copies, see? 2 pages of paper =) His response? I saw you, you took out another piece of paper that's 3. Very accusatory and much like the hated salespeople that follow you down the aisles as though you are going to steal something.
wow talk about cheap. I was like um, yea your machine jammed so the only way to make my copies was to remove the jammed paper. You can take a look. I left it there, a bright new white piece of paper that you can put back into the drawer and the wife says NO you make mistake you pay. *scoff* yea unbelievable, I know. So, I say, that's fine, you can have your 30 cents, I am not going to argue with you over that but you know something, I bet they do that with every customer that goes in there to use the machines. I'm just flabbergasted! Cheap and lack of customer service. I would have gone in there to buy wine or liquor but after their wonderful display of customer service, would you give them a second chance? I paid and purposely smiled extra big and said, "Have a nice day"
ahh so satisfying to write and vent
settling down with my homemade kalamata olives spread, sopressata, proscuitto, oven roasted turkey breast, muenster cheese, topped with brussels sprouts sandwich on cuban style pan de manteca and tomato basil soup. Yea, I've had better, perhaps a bit too ambitious? Bummer ~
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The lonely burger
Today was harder than others, I'm not sure why. My body gets sick when I don't get enough sleep and now apparently when I am suffering from heart ache as well.
Today, I picked up a few more tricks at work and even printed several customer's checks - yes, it is just the beginning. I looked into taking classes to further my "management" skills and think I will even apply for a scholarship which will cut the cost in half and I am, I think, realistically optimistic about my chances! Only thing is the deadline passed for this year so it'll be tacked onto 2010's goals.
Ever smell singed hair? This lady's hair briefly caught on fire today (smoke only) thank goodness! but it was pretty crazy. She seemed embarrassed so I told her when she's telling her friends the story, she should tell them that she is smoking hot! and she said "aww thanks! you're the only one who thinks so" and I thought that many women probably feel that way so if you're reading this, I want you to tell a female friend of yours tomorrow that she is a smoking hot mama (only if you mean it, even partially) cuz it will make her day I guarantee it ^_^
Today, I "met" the woman who the movie/book The Devil Wears Prada was inspired by and she didn't seem mean at all! I also "saw" and was told by another employee about a certain manager's habits of pocketing tips that belongs to others if you know what I mean and I'm not sure what my course of action will be in the matter just yet. Suggestions welcome.
So I was sent home with this amazing burger cut in 2 perfect halves with perfectly diced veggies and all I could think was "I know who I would have loved to share this with." To call up after 11 hours on my feet to slurp up this deliciousness while sitting on the couch chatting about the day's highs and lows and instead I scarfed both halves down, veggies and all and washed it down with some lightly sweetened earl grey tea at home by myself in the moonlight, wondering if he missed me the same.
Funny things happen often where I work. I'd like to keep a diary of my days as a sort of memoirs. I know I amuse easily but hey, who knows maybe people out there just might enjoy reading a book filled with restaurant anecdotes.
Wednesday, 06 August 2008
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International YoYo Competition - FREE this Sat. August 9th
So there is this aweeeeeesomee event going onnnnnnn this weekend in NYC - apparently there is this huge appeal of yoyo enthusiasts! surprisingly haha, of all ages! there are load of videos on YouTube and the company that started this whole thing, YoYoNation is run by one of the coolest guys I've ever met!
It was featured in this morning's news segment with myFoxNY - Good Day as Time Out NY's top picks! Just one of many interviews.
International Yo-Yo Open and New York State Yo-Yo Contest"The best yo-yo players compete in the heart of New York City."
11:00 am on Aug 8, 2008 at Saturday Main Event: South Street Seaport, Pier 17.
Sunday, 06 April 2008
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So ... I "caught" ... the
wedding bouquet today - erff?? haha - clumsy awkward me. The emcee was calling all the single ladies up and at first I didn't get up. Then Dan was like you should go it'll be fun! So I said ok and stood in the back. Somehow everyone shuffled back and all of a sudden I was front line and center. I'm pointing to the decorations on the ceiling because I was sure my friend, Chia, the bride was going to launch that thing high in the air, you know like how in movies it is in slow motion and the scene zeros in on the bouquet in flight.
Well, she not only did not hit the ceiling nor land in the food that flanked us on our left and right but threw it just the right distance toward the group of girls standing shyly. My hands were busy pointing and I had a napkin in the other fist so the bouquet hit me squarely in the 'lap' and bounced off my hands and landed on the floor.
So by default since I was the only one that touched the bouquet I think ... hahahah
I consider it good luck for I know Chia and Jason will have a wonderful life together with God's blessings wrapped all around them =) 
Congratssss honeyyy ~ I love you!
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On a different note, I don't know what has begotten my mama for her to tell me what my inheritance is! and in case of an emergency, what I am to do, what lawyers to use, where important documents are, etc. =\ I wish my pops was still here for her sake. sigh ~
Wednesday, 13 February 2008
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Agree or Disagree?
girl # 1 : well supposedly girls should be pampered for vdaygirl # 1 : hahahagirl # 2: that sounds nicegirl # 1 : that what i got from most of my friends.. they don't think girls should do anything
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so on a side note, I reported this woman at work to HR. ... Had the last straw when she told me to go kill myself. yah! I know ~ my brain didn't even register what she had said until a few seconds later and I did a double take like huh? what??? what did you just say to me? This is in response to "I helped you do the report."
I am not prepared to have a discussion with someone my mother's age on what proper office etiquette is - ugh!
Wednesday, 30 January 2008
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The ripple effect of past relationships
Do you ever think of your ex? How they are doing, if they are happy, what is up with their lives? I don't really. Sure, maybe if someone asks me about him or something that I come across reminds me of an instance when we were together but generally an ex is exactly that and since your lives no longer overlap, it really is not " cold " to say it is a moot point.
So, you can imagine my surprise when suddenly, I get an im the other day that he'd like to come by to visit with his mom to see me and have lunch. The interesting part is that though me and him no longer talk, his mom and I kept in touch here and there because in the time that I was dating her son, we became friends despite the age difference. We used to cook dinner and in a way, I saw her kind of like a second mom even! In fact, I think I stayed with him longer than I might have because of her! haha
It is just funny to reflect upon that now because it would seem as if I was dating her you know? And now, because of her, I may see him again. I am considering saying that I am too busy. People say the darnest things sometimes like, I love you, you are the best thing that ever happened to me! and yet with such a powerful statement, there should, logically speaking that is, be an equally powerful act of validation that would stem naturally from their self professed declaration no? It is not until the 'object of their affection' is gone that they truly miss and appreciate what once was theirs for the taking. Or.... perhaps, they realize they were merely mistaken.
We, as adults dream and hope despite our vulnerable hearts. I think about this girl I know who swears she has a pox on her because every guy she has dated seriously has after breaking up with her, gotten engaged with someone else within 6 months.
I think that in a very similar way to how a person is saved in Christianity by Jesus - not by works or good deeds but by the grace of God; I think that there is no "act or present" so large as to make someone fall in love with you but rather they just do because the magic 'click' is there. & along that same school of thought, it is however, possible to make someone fall out of love with you from lack of contribution to the relationship ... because we are vain creatures and like a plant that will lean in the direction of sunlight, we too follow suit.
* just rambling * ....
Friday, 28 December 2007
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Ringing in the New Year
...... in the back office of the Sheraton in Weehawken, NJ.
I won't be watching the ball drop with family or friends this year so I don't know? *crinkle nose* I hope it doesn't forebode rainy days =\ A part of me wonders if this is a moment I will reflect back on in a few years and wonder the woulda/coulda/shouldas. This year was also the first year I did not receive a Christmas present present. Don't get me wrong, I am thankfully content to have truly only 'gave' this holiday season.
It is the loss of human connection that doesn't sit right with me. As an only child growing up, I have always been envious of people with siblings. That is why I loved dorming. I remember growing up going to birthday parties and going home with a bag of goodies with the taste of all the festivities lingering in my memories to last me during those quiet homey days. Then in High School when you would get 99 cents birthday balloons galore and flowers from boys. Nowadays we've grown older and with less time and more financial responsibilities, often secret santa and group dinners take precedence. The point is that the gifts if only just one no matter how small or weird represented that someone was thinking of you. And the all in one gathering, the icing on the cake. It provided the reason for us all to get together and that! is what I am missing.
So in the words of my one and only ___ (thank you for that heartfelt email) - "Here's wishing you the 3 L's for 2008. Life Love and Laughs. Let's make it a great one!"
Saturday, 01 December 2007
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Good Service
These days practically every meal is eaten in 10 minutes or less whether it is scarfing down food that will be all I will eat for the next 8 hours or a sip of soda in between the endless calls and running to and fro while maintaining a smile on my face.
Smiling, honestly comes so natural to me. I smile especially when I am nervous. So by definition, if I smile when I am happy and smile when I am sad and when I am nervous, I am essentially smiling all the time which generally is the disposition I choose to be most of the time.
It is strange now to feel as though working in the hospitality industry is literally sucking all of my ‘smiling power’ outta me!
They tell me that sometimes ppl will call and lie about having a reservation but you can’t fall for it without making them feel dishonest. I understand it is a coveted restaurant and often you are getting concierges who have their own agenda but can you imagine? Grown men and women lying about having a reservation when they did not or whining when I tell them however nicely that we are fully reserved and would only be able to accommodate them at a later time which is what they did not want to hear … or say they made the reservation through Open Table and put in the reservation notes that they would like a particular table then throwing a temper tantrum when they don’t get it when it was never promised to them and yet we want to leave all our customers happy and so we smile and say we will do the best we can.
I swear it is rubbing off on me because after a 11 hour work day, 7 of which was spent on my feet, I opted for Yoshinoya on my way home instead of having to actually make something for myself to eat at 11:30 pm when I have to get up at 7 am the next morning. I really like vegetables so the few times I have gotten something there, I always ask for extra vegetables. Not a big request right? Vegetables are soooo cheap! So the girl barely acknowledges my request and takes my money. She hands my ticket to the counter and says not a word. – serious lack of customer service here. So I try to catch the eye of the boy I am guessing is in charge of vegetables to say, please extra vegetables and this time I am successful. So it makes me think, you pay $4.52 for your meal and so you get $4.52 worth of service. …. Versus people who pay $100 plus for a dinner for two and your hostess shows you to your table, pulls it out and tucks you in while your server attends to your every need and request. (albeit you are paying much more) but surely, good service should be universal, no?
My bus is loading thankfully when I get to port authority and there is a line. I am lucky and get on and say excuse me to a lady who has taken up two seats because one of her small bags needed a seat. Why am I surprised that she would roll her eyes at giving up her bag’s seat? Like wow.
So now I am home in front of my comp, happily chowing down on my chicken bowl with EXTRA VEGETABLES and I feel newfound appreciation for office jobs where you get to sit and meals eaten in leisure in the company of friends and loved ones.
=)
Sorry I missed your bday party Derek!!! Happy belated!!! I had to work tonight. =\
Thank you Kentaro for making me lunch!-
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Friday, 16 November 2007
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the pitter patter of Rain
I walked to work in the rain. I didn't mind the feeling of it falling on my face at all. Even as it started to pour as I neared my destination, it did not behoove me to walk faster. In fact, if I did not have to go to work, I think I would have liked to have stayed in the rain for a bit longer for a rain drenched face masks tears. They say that rain is cleansing. Scientifically, I think it is actually ground moisture that is sucked back up to the clouds and then released so it is probably not so hygienic hee hee but I agree with that sentiment. I cut my toenails last night and my finger nails and I got a haircut. The ritual of grooming oneself can be incredibly purifying. One of my all time favorite aspects about getting your hair cut is having someone wash your hair for you. I recline in what is not always the most comfortable of positions but when they work the shampoo in, I close my eyes, they start lathering, some light rubbing/massaging, the water pressure, the calming smell wafts up my nose cuz you know it always smells so nice - I can just feel the poisonous gases of stress being released - evaporating into air. I think I tend to turn to people when I need comfort, I crave the physical support so this was a nice medium that took its place.
I saw this movie the other night that was based on a book and supposedly the greatest love story of all time. It made me think of a friend of mine who has loved one girl for half of my life practically. He is as close as anyone I know to being one of those lucky few who find their "soulmate". The only obstacle is she does not feel the same way. ha - that's life eh? but in all honesty I think it is incredibly admirable and brave.
How many times have you had someone say they love you, and next week, they are with someone else. It makes you wonder if they in fact loved you at all. The flip of that is you can't begrudge someone for moving on with their life when you declare your disinterest but somehow, I just envisioned "love" to be more relentless. Wouldn't you fight for the one you loved?
They say you never forget your first love. That you just move on because you have to. They say sometimes troubles of the heart manifests itself physically. It could be stress from work, love life, family, career, having too many options, having no answers, having too much to do, having nothing to do ha! I used to be a cynic but I think I just may keep an open mind from hereon.
What is a spouse? Your partner in crime, your confidant, your best friend, your teacher, your lover, your companion in old age, your joy, your laughter, your better half, the one person who knows all your flaws and shortcomings but loves you still.
There was this one scene. Fermina and the doctor have been married for many years. She wonders if life would have been different if she had stayed in love with her first love,Florentino who till this day some 45 YEARS LATER loved her still. They are nearing grey hair days and she finds the scent of another woman on her husband's (doctor) clothes and confronts him. He does not deny it and says he will end it which he does. Fermina then leaves him to stay with her cousin in the country and a day later, the doctor comes riding into their village in good spirits and say, "better late even when you are not invited." He then basically says I know you were too proud to come back on your own and so I have come to fetch you back. I thought perhaps we could have a second honeymoon." Essentially she had left him because of his infidelity and he swallowed his own shame and pride and came TO HER to make things right again because he loved her. That is just how I intrepreted the scene and it touched my heart.
I think often when people who care about each other bicker, pride and self righteous thoughts become huge obstacles. It should be that both are jumping at the chance to be the first to reach out but that is rarely the case. And whoever ends up making the first move, if not well received, should continue to do so at least a few more times before just giving up because how else could that be considered a real and honest effort, no?
I think that scene touched my heart because as self evolved as it may sound, I think I am often the one who does the reaching out and so, to have the roles reversed says to me that he cares about me deeply enough to do whatever it takes to ensure that I remain a big part of his life. I am not a woman who can say she has been showered with that type of devotion. In truth, I think that type of compassion and love is not readily found.
My friend, (a different one) said that the movie made him think that he "is a sucker for unrequited love". He also said that love is a derivative of the intention of one's actions. I am not quite sure what that means haha but to love someone who does not love you is not a life I would choose for myself.
I know such a complicated topic of discussion. The movie made me think and I'm not sure where I stand cuz on one hand, I would not choose to love a man who does not love me more and yet I firmly believe that if you love someone you should be steadfast but is it a fool's wait because they may never come around or when they do, you're not the one they have in mind. Florentino waited 55 years and for him, it was all worth it in the end. wow.
so how long would you wait?
Saturday, 10 November 2007
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cheers to ...
1. new beginnings
2. awesome friends
3. chatting with someone near and dear
4. falling asleep in someone's embrace
5. fresh air
6. people who give tip to coat checkers
7. friendly strangers
8. sweet soybean milk
9. thanksgiving parties
10. temp agencies that rock
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About Me
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Rarely a dull moment when you see the silver lining ^_^ ~ Jesus, music, food, hugs, kisses, smiles, sunny days, rainbows, argyle print, flowers (tulips and hydrangeas), silky bed sheets are my aphrodisiacs. Brussels Sprouts might make the cut if they keep it up hee hee
In addition to watching head-spinning yo-yo tricks and the crowning of this year's New York State and International Open yo-yo champions, visitors can check out live music, DJs, breakdancers, jugglers, and spin-top and diabolo performers, and mini-contests and giveaways -- as well as try out the best in yo-yo equipment for beginners and experts.